Why goodthing.bio exists.
Think about how much preparation goes into buying a house, moving to another country, changing careers or landing your dream job. Years of education, months of research, networking, studying, rewriting CVs and putting yourself out there.
Then come the interviews, often with several grilling stages and difficult questions to establish whether you're a good fit for the organisation. And you have important questions of your own about salary, benefits, responsibilities and career opportunities.
We consider all this perfectly reasonable for work relationships that might last only a few years.
Yet when it comes to choosing someone we hope to spend the rest of our lives with, we're happy to coast through months of 'talking stages' and superficial conversations because asking important questions too early can be considered awkward, unromantic or even desperate.
And you know what's worse? Many of us don't even know which important questions we should be asking.
Dating is broken. Dating apps are even more broken.
Recently, we read about a marriage that ended after just five months. The wife discovered her husband had $75,000 in undisclosed debt. Which makes you wonder: how did this never come up while they were dating?
When dating, people often look for what they have in common, however trivial, as proof of compatibility, instead of doing the more daunting work of identifying fundamental incompatibilities. They lead with romance and hope everything else works out.
Even family and friends trying to match you with a friend's brother or a neighbour's sister are often working with little more than the fact that you're both single and work in tech.
But it won't matter how much you both love writing poetry, airport lounges and a hundred other things if you discover six months later that you fundamentally disagree on what counts as cheating.
And we think dating apps have made matters worse, with the illusion of endless choice, superficial judgements, disposable connections and the persistent feeling that someone better might be one swipe away.
But if your goal is marriage, you don't need more options. You need better-aligned ones, and a better framework for vetting them.
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If it's perfectly acceptable, even celebrated, to be unashamed about our career and financial goals, to be courageous in business and pursue our dreams, why should we be embarrassed about showing that same courage and intentionality when looking for someone to spend the rest of our lives with?
So stop playing it cool and hoping the right person will magically find you. And we don't believe asking serious questions upfront ruins romance. We believe it can help protect it.
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